Showing posts with label Unhappiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Unhappiness. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Loosen the rope. You might hang yourself if you don't.

Once upon a time I prided myself on the amount of control I needed over my life. Everything had to be in order. Even more so, I wanted everything to be done my way. While this worked to an extent during my college years and early career days I have become much more lax and compromising.

Marriage (a happy one) and children will do this to a person.

I have had the most eye opening experiences as of late regarding said control freaks. Pretty much I find most of them to be incredibly unhappy and don’t have the opportunity to enjoy things because they are too busy wanting to be right and wanting to have control over everything that you do.

I am not a completely reformed control freak. My house does have to be just right, but I no longer attempt to control RT and Gia to conform to my way of thinking or doing things. I like to have control over things like my plans and where I see my future in the next six months, but I no longer need (or want) to control how others do things or that they always have to think that I am right.

It leaves you lonely. Without friends and having a husband that is a puppet….not a real life man. Let’s be honest, part of why I love RT so much is he fights back…just don’t tell him that.

You know who you are….loosen up…..maybe you could have some fun then.